[Paul’s Live Blog — 12:10 pm] In the Room the Women (and Men!) Come and Go

Well, to tell the truth, it’s been kind of a ‘house party’ here at the Bretholtz Center.  Folks are popping by to express their good wishes and confidence.  Confidence.  That seems to be the word of the day.  We’re all confident.  Confident in God, confident in Dr. Johnson, confident in Pam.

The thing about Pam is that she doesn’t understand the impact she makes on other people.  She never did, really.  I used to tell her, “You don’t know your own strength”.  I was referring to her strength in social situations.  The amazing thing is that she doesn’t know how amazing she is!

She’s the real deal.  People marvel at her faith, at her willingness to put her trust in God.  I’m one of the people who’s marvelling.  Yeah, she gets grumpy from time to time.  There’s a dark side to cancer.  It’s a terrible thing to contemplate.  Pam talks a lot about ‘losses’.  The loss of a job, the loss of freedom, the loss of physical comfort.  She also feels the loss of a future.  Nobody knows what’s going to happen — nobody ever knows; but a diagnosis of aggressive glioblastoma has a way of focusing a person’s attention on the ‘now’.

Here’s an example.  Pam has never been to California.  The trip to California was always something we were going to do “later on” or “when we get the chance.”  We’re no longer waiting for anything.  The chance to travel in California is the chance we make for ourselves — or not.  We’ve already started to plan for a trip in June.

We’re also planning for a party in May.  Pam turns 58 on May 25th and, this year, her birthday falls on a Saturday.  Good day for a party.  Why wait for some ’round number’ to come up?  Why not celebrate 58?  That’s as good a number as 30 or 50 or 100.  We’re going to invite everyone we know (this means you!) and everyone we don’t know.  It will be a birthday party, but it will be more than that.  We’re going to have a Celebrate Life party.  Let’s celebrate Pam’s life, my life, your life, everyone’s life.  Let’s give some props to the Author of Life, too.

I heard someone once say that the reason God gave us life is because He thought we’d enjoy it.

In Pam’s case, He thought right!

Love always,



About captaincatholic

Fifty Eight Year old 'Cradle Catholic'. Married for twenty two years to the magnificent Pam. Father to the unsurpassable Angelique. Parishioner at Sacred Heart Parish in Lexington MA.
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One Response to [Paul’s Live Blog — 12:10 pm] In the Room the Women (and Men!) Come and Go

  1. magalehouse@comcast.net says:

    God bless you and Pam. Mary Anne G
    Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile

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