To all you wonderful people:
I spoke, this morning, with Mark Douglass of the Douglass Funeral Home in Lexington MA and, between the two of us, we hammered out arrangements for giving Pam her last goodbye.
OK, jot this down: We will be receiving visitors at our parish, Sacred Heart Parish, at 16 Follen Rd in Lexington, from 4pm to 8pm on Friday. The MLB hasn’t worked out the details, yet, but I’m quite sure they’ll schedule the Red Sox’ playoff opener so that it conflicts with Pam’s wake. A woman as uninterested in sports as Pam, married to a rabid Sox fan, needs all the assurance she can get that her husband always puts her ahead of baseball.
(Just to keep it real — Mark and I did everything we could to schedule a time that didn’t conflict but it just wasn’t possible to do.)
Pamela’s funeral will be on Saturday, at St. Brigid Church (our sister parish in the Lexington Catholic Community) at 10 am. I’m currently trying to convince her nephews to serve as pall bearers. She has eight Vitale nephews to carry her up to the altar before Mass and eight Bradford nephews to carry her back to the hearse after Mass. So far I haven’t managed to get any of them to commit, so there’s a chance I’ll be lugging the coffin by myself. Stay tuned.
At 11:30, right after Mass, there will be a collation in the St. Brigid Parish Hall across from the church. Who’s invited to attend? You, that’s who!! Pam’s life was dedicated to hospitality and to celebration and, damn it, I’m going to make sure she goes out with a bang. Will there be anything to eat?? What, are you kidding? I dare you to make us run out!
Pamela lived a life of joy, so let’s celebrate the completion of her life with an overflow of gratitude and happiness.
Pam will be buried at Mt. Auburn Cemetery in Cambridge (ever hear of it) in a private ceremony; but if you’re not invited to attend on Saturday you are invited to visit Pam at some other time. I’d love for you to see her final resting place. It is so, so beautiful! Did you think someone so beautiful deserved anything less.
The Globe will print her obituary on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. It will also be available on the Douglass web page.
I’ll post more details when they become available.
Lots of Love,